tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2638558641271470163.post3307285205295116507..comments2023-03-29T22:03:22.641-04:00Comments on Escaping The "Trap" of Domestic Violence: "Perpetrator or Victim?"Kathrynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16512389735681699311noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2638558641271470163.post-41435065523188062482009-04-10T11:53:00.000-04:002009-04-10T11:53:00.000-04:00I have to say that although I saw all of these che...I have to say that although I saw all of these checklists and such before my 'eye opening' dv incident, I never really 'saw it' until I was in the hospital. Suddenly, there was pamphlet after booklet after social worker and it was so obvious. It was like I somehow knew all along but had made it ok or made excuses for it. Anyways.. just rambling. I've started writing my own story on my blog and was pleasantly surprised to find yours. :)Carriehttp://www.ponderethereal.com/category/scribbling/what-went-right/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2638558641271470163.post-24925491709398039522008-08-31T21:56:00.000-04:002008-08-31T21:56:00.000-04:00Hi KathrynI'm wanting to contact you about my book...Hi Kathryn<BR/>I'm wanting to contact you about my book Not Under Bondage: Biblical Divorce for Abuse, Adultery and Desertion. Can't find how to send you a simple email. Can you please get in touch with me. My address is barbara@notunderbondage.com and my book can be seen at www.notunderbondage.com <BR/>Hope to hear from you soon.<BR/>Bless you<BR/>BarbaraAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00710652037943503274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2638558641271470163.post-55692302577412994002008-07-21T13:59:00.000-04:002008-07-21T13:59:00.000-04:00greetings to you my sister,i just want you to know...greetings to you my sister,<BR/><BR/>i just want you to know that i praise God for giving your heart something to say for Him.<BR/><BR/>i am humbled and honored to call you my sister and i boldly stand with you as you speak what God has put into your heart to say!<BR/>I thank God our Father for your life and i thank Jesus for saving it.<BR/><BR/>His Word and Truth are a healing Balm! and that is what i have been doing, praying, praising, and thanking His Holy Spirit for raining down His healing Oil every place it is needed. in Jesus name, amen<BR/><BR/>in the name of our brother Jesus i thank Him for providing you with the strength and wisdom that you need to daily accomplish all that He has sent.<BR/>i pray that what is in your heart as you speak it also provides to the people with need- the love, wisdom, confidence, strength, truth and faith in such an abundance there will be overflow for the latter days. <BR/>The blessing that the Lord Himself spoke over you creates ripples that cast out blessings for all in need of Jesus. from your one many rec'ed! in His name, stay in His love my sister.<BR/>Amen.wisdomteachesmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04064324322310160672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2638558641271470163.post-9796029752700679342008-07-19T11:36:00.000-04:002008-07-19T11:36:00.000-04:00Good test. Thank you Kathryn for doing your best...Good test. Thank you Kathryn for doing your best to help people who are going through what you went through. Not me in particular, by the way but even so.....PetitPoixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08219703547179966577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2638558641271470163.post-81711432349046700082008-07-18T09:29:00.000-04:002008-07-18T09:29:00.000-04:00Having traveled extensively in Eastern Europe and ...Having traveled extensively in Eastern Europe and prior to getting so involved there, spent some time in Russia for shorter periods of time.<BR/><BR/>I came across something today that was extremely disturbing to me. It was an interview given by Gregory Feifer on NPR. <BR/><BR/>***He said. "July 17, 2008 · Domestic violence is one of Russia's darkest secrets. The government estimates that 14,000 women die each year at the hands of their husbands or male partners. But Russian police don't even classify domestic abuse as a crime. It's a social problem few Russians ever mention".***<BR/>---------------<BR/>Then later in the day, I had four readers of this blog email this interview to me. Since, others too, were disturbed by this, I thought I'd share it with all of you.<BR/><BR/>Can you imagine, Russian police do NOT even classify domestic abuse as a crime, even though 14,000 women die each year at the hand of their partner. This is beyond outrageous!<BR/><BR/>KathrynKathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16512389735681699311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2638558641271470163.post-47204657738135508472008-07-11T13:20:00.000-04:002008-07-11T13:20:00.000-04:00I sent the page with the questionnaire to my siste...I sent the page with the questionnaire to my sister. This is the first time I've been bold enough to approach the topic of domestic abuse with her. Her situation is extreme. She constantly makes excuses for him. It's as if she's been brainwashed or something. He never lets her be with any of us alone. He is always present. He never even lets any of us babysit for them. My brother told me he had stopped over there unannounced last week. My niece was in the backyard. There were visible bruises on her little legs. When my brother noticed her in the backyard, my sisters boyfriend immediately called her inside and told him that my sister was laying down.<BR/><BR/>We don't know what to do. Suggestions?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2638558641271470163.post-40183868772433749122008-07-08T13:16:00.000-04:002008-07-08T13:16:00.000-04:00Ladies, you only live once on this earth. Do you w...Ladies, you only live once on this earth. Do you want to spend your one life being abused and humiliated, or do you want to stand up for yourself and have the life you deserve? You are a child of God and do NOT have to take any form of abuse! Don’t listen to the lies that you’re worthless, or will never amount to anything or that can’t make it on your own! Those are lies from a man who wants you to believe you can’t make it without him – but you CAN! Women break free every day and never look back! The only way these pathetic little men can hold you is through fear and intimidation, but you do NOT have to put up with it! Don’t fall for the sad faces they put on after abusing you when they say it will never happen again. That is a lie and he’s just setting you up for the next round. Let them find someone else to beat up because YOU deserve better and it’s your time to do this for you! Anything you are told that is negative or leads to more abuse is a total lie to control you and keep you submissive to even more abuse. It will NEVER end until YOU say ENOUGH and break free! Abusers will do whatever you allow them to do. If you keep coming back for more, he will dish it out. The cycle of abuse will only end when YOU end it by getting out. Other women do that every day and so can you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2638558641271470163.post-54247405442278853182008-07-08T13:11:00.001-04:002008-07-08T13:11:00.001-04:00As a man, I have some questions for you abusers – ...As a man, I have some questions for you abusers – <BR/><BR/> <BR/><BR/>If it’s alright to abuse your wife and children, why is the common theme to keep it quiet? Why do almost all letters from abusers say to shut up? Why do you only abuse behind closed doors? Why don’t you slap her in public? Why don’t you belittle her in public? Why don’t you tell people that you’re a wife beater? If abuse is not wrong, you shouldn’t have any problem with others seeing it or knowing about it should you?<BR/><BR/> <BR/><BR/>Another question: If your sister or your daughter or your mother told you they were being abused, how would you feel? If your married daughter said her husband abused her how would you feel? If your teenage daughter came home from a date bruised from being raped by her boyfriend, how would you feel? Now just think that your wife is someone’s sister, or daughter or mother. If it’s not alright for a teenage boy to rape your daughter, why is it ok for you to rape your wife? Isn’t it the same thing?<BR/><BR/> <BR/><BR/>If abuse is promoted using the Biblical “submission” excuse, why is abuse not promoted in the Bible? Show me ANY Bible passage where a woman or child is abused – JUST ONE! In what passage in the Bible does Jesus slap a woman? I must have missed that one. And what are you going to say when you die and stand in front of God and He asks why you abused the woman he created? What Bible verse will you try to twist to justify the abuse? Everyone will face God when they die – even you - and you will have to give an accounting for the abuse you dished out. If you think you won’t then think again. God sees everything that you try to hide behind closed doors. The punishment God sends you to will be thousands of times worse than you can imagine and you will pay dearly for the punishment you dish out. When your wife dies, her pain will stop. When you die, your pain will be just beginning…Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2638558641271470163.post-5514656665535000032008-07-08T12:09:00.000-04:002008-07-08T12:09:00.000-04:00The women that post scripture need to pay more att...The women that post scripture need to pay more attention to their household duties. My guess would be they are busy bodies. You obviously have others that spout your type rhetoric.<BR/><BR/>One of those that posted scripture asked if the comment referrenced was written by a Christian. Well, the answer is YES! Is it so unusual to think that we actually believe that the husband is the head of the house? We do believe it. What is written is fact.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2638558641271470163.post-29123621284457406922008-07-08T08:36:00.000-04:002008-07-08T08:36:00.000-04:00I took the test that you put in what you wrote. T...I took the test that you put in what you wrote. The answers didn't surprise me. It let showed me what I alredy knwo. What I don't know, is how do I get out of here? You need to know that there is no help out here in rural areas. Everything is so far.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com